Philosophies; The One’s That Matter
1. Aim for Happiness
For the last four year’s I’ve noticed that many of my value’s and philosophies have changed greatly, and quite frankly I think these change’s have originated from the fact that I’ve aged. At this point in life I honestly can say that happiness is one of the most important emotion’s that I’d like to achieve. The only emotion that I’d like to live by.
I understand that “Aim for Happiness” is a pretty broad philosophy. In my opinion that the only way I’ll truly be happy is if I avoid the situation’s, and the people who make me unhappy. Avoiding isn’t exactly the best way to go about things but it allows me to be happy, and at this point in time that’s the only thing that matters.
2. Educate yourself
My mother has four degree’s. As her daughter I’m reminded of this daily, and it isn’t a horrible reminder. It’s just something that gets mentioned a ton in order to push my brother’s and I to do better. Aim higher. Achieve more, but honestly this “educate yourself” isn’t necessarily about getting more degree’s than my mom. It’s about learning new thing’s everyday, finding out what I’m mean’t to do after certain event’s, and just living life in a non-ignorant fashion.
It just means going out of my way to treat others better. It means knowing the cultural backgrounds of every person I meet in order to make them as comfortable around me as possible. It just means learning to be better as an individual in general.
3. Accept your Shortcomings
My shortcomings shouldn’t hold me back from achieving my goal’s or hold me back from accepting myself. In fact all my flaws should allow me to work harder. Accepting my shortcomings allows me to be the person I want to be, it allows me to be confident, and allows me to step out of the box I’ve allowed to incase me for so long.
It means not feeling so guilty when people point out things they don’t like about me. Accepting my shortcomings has allowed me to just be okay with who I am, rather than trying to change my personality to suit other’s and to fit in.
4. Life is short… take a minute and observe
I think until we’ve experienced some god awful situation’s we never actually take the time to observe. We don’t just see. Don’t look between the lines.
“Why don’t you sit right here, khatira,” the nurse says as she begins to place my IV fluid bag onto the new rod. She silently looks around the room, and checks my temperature.
“36.2, she’s alright,” she says to my mother and then proceeds to walk away.
I place my glasses on as I begin to reassure my parents that I’m fine while looking around the room. There’s about six large chairs filled with people, older people, and they all seem okay. But than I notice the boy, he’s in a bed hooked to a rod just like mine, but I can tell… he’s in a lot more pain than I am. On his right side is his father or a man I presume is his father. This older man looks tired, and I can’t possibly blame him because thats exactly what the hospital does… it exhausts you.
“Khatira, so in a couple of minute’s someone’s going to come down and speak to you,” says the doctor who didn’t believe me just three hours ago when I first walked into the ER complaining about the pain in my right side. Not long after a doctor walks towards my chair, silently asks if she could see me in this small area hidden behind a curtain. I get up and slowly make my way towards the bed thats awaiting me, she indicates for me to lay down while she presses her hand into the area where my appendix is located.
“So we’re going to make five incision’s,” she points towards her own stomach,” instead of the older technique where it was just one straight line through. The surgery will take about an hour to an hour and a half… Every surgery has complications…. We’ll hopefully be able to schedule in the next three hours. Maybe even earlier.”
I slowly walk back towards my chair and sit down with a heavy sigh looking around the room again. I see some new faces but mostly the same people. The boys still laying in his bed but now he’s speaking, and I can’t help but listen… He’s talking about his MRI scans… They’ve found a tumour… The only thing I can think about now is the fact that there are no lock’s, no door’s, and no privacy. What you see is what you get and even though they’ll try their hardest to make you comfortable… you’ll never be comfortable. I’m going to be in this hospital for about two weeks, and this guy who has his whole life ahead of him will be stuck here for a while. I can’t possibly complain about anything now, I have nothing to complain about.
5. Do Epic S***
This isn’t necessarily about the “epic” portion rather it being about memories and experience’s. I could go bungee jumping, but I wouldn’t be excited about the bungee jumping per se. I’d be excited about the reaction’s I’d get from my family, and I’d be excited about the fact that I got to experience this with them. Its the fact that these situation’s create memories, and memories bring people closer together.