“Why is it that the people who need the most help refuse to take it” -Jessie Burns ” A River Runs Through It”
There are times that a person faces obstacles in their life, they can ask for help but choose not to because of high ego’s or even the restrictions they have on themselves. The problem can be serious but they will not ask for help even though it might result them in failing or not even getting through that obstacle.
Since our childhood our society has thought us that you need to be strong, independent and not to take help unless you are in a position where you are stuck and have no other option but to ask. This causes people to get a fear built up inside of them due to them not wanting to look weak, to lack being independent. If we develop such beliefs that we cannot look weak or our pride takes over, this will cause more damage to in the future because its like a sickness if its not treated on time it will slowly affect the individual more. But one of the biggest reason of why people don’t seek help is because of the belief that we can solve all our problem ourselves or we are scared of people judging us and criticizing us.
Growing up and becoming more independent is how life is supposed to be. I’ve felt that I’ve connected to this topic due to the fact that I wasn’t the most independent person until grade 7. I used to get my mom to help me with homework and projects and she constantly told me that I needed to start being more independent because she couldn’t help me when I got to high school. I started doing better in school when I became more independent and it made me feel good and I was always thinking that I was a smart kid. In grade 11 I started to struggle in Chemistry and I wasn’t asking for help and it affected my marks. I was to scared to ask for help and tried to solve my problem myself but it wasn’t working, and I finally realized that I would need to change my attitude if I wanted to succeed in my goal of doing good in chemistry. I decided to ask more questions in class and stayed after school a couple of days and got extra help and that showed a positive impact on my marks and it helped me succeed in my goal.
“Fear Kills More Dreams Than Failure Will Ever” -Unknown
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