Life lessons

During the average life of everyone has their ups and downs in it. Sometimes life can be so black and white and it’s in the grey area where we learn and find ourselves. When someone’s past has had erratic or hard life lessons taught to them it’s the way that they deal with it that either keeps them in chains or makes them free. This can be seen in The Glass Castle about jeanette and how her struggles and hardships forced her to fend for herself and was what made her, about Rex and how he turned to drinking to forget the past, Rosemary and how her strict life lead her to go down a different past.

Going through struggles helps makes us who we are and makes us prepared for the future because of what was going on. In the glass castle by Jeannette Walls, Jennette goes through being made fun of by her peers for the not having decent clothes and being bullied because of it. This helped her because later on when she was being bullied she was able to defend herself better and being able to stand up for herself.  Everyone has hardships and struggles and how you deal with that is how you are preserved either a success or a failure by society.  A success would be able to overcome this and be stronger for it or you can fail and become what you hate. Everyone wants a success story, no one wants to be a failure and knowing that it’s ultimately up to you is the most important thing to remember.

Blocking memories and experiences is one way people use to protect themselves from being hurt again. In the glass castle when you get to welch and meet rex’s parents you begin to see why he is an alcoholic because of the place where he was raised and his parents. This is significant because this is how he deals with his issues and problems is by drinking to forget the pain that he feels everyday because of abusive parents and a not supporting household. Drowning your issues is how many people seem to push away there problems. There are many ways people do this either by diving into work or going to drugs. Pushing things away and not dealing with them is many ways why relationships fail because there not able to deal with the trauma that they have experienced and in the end are not better for it.

It’s how you are raised and where you learn is how you decide to live your life. In the glass castle Rose mary is seen and interpreted as a free spirit and this is how she lives her life is without a worry in the world because of her strict upbringing she feels that she forever need to be free. This is important because she is also pushing her feeling away and instead of letting in the worries and dealing with that she doesn’t let anything get to her and that’s why when she gets sad she goes into a 3 day period where she can’t do anything because she lets in all the things that she has pushed out flood back to her. This is unhealthy because she is keeping in her pain and not letting it come out and fly away. Talking to someone would even get rid of this issues. Often people like this don’t like conflict or don’t want to see people’s feelings get hurt so they keep it in until they cant anymore.

People’s past is often filled with hardships and struggles and ofen this is how people tend to few themselfs is either as a survivor or as a failure. Jennette dealt with her issues and because of that she succeeded and moved on in life and didn’t become a shadow of her parents. Both Rex and Rosemary see themselves as failure and don’t often have real or personal talks because they both push away there problems and ignore them. Even though these issues have real consequences to their relationships and that both of them seem to accept this.