A Bend in the Road
It was early June of 2016 I remember getting picked up by my parents from school. For some vague reason, I recall being ecstatic. On our way home, not even ten minutes into the drive, my mom got a call, and out of nowhere she told my Dad to pull over, as he pulled over, my Mom told us that the doctors found cancer in my Aunt’s lungs.
Growing up in a Hispanic family the first thing that I was taught was that family always comes first and that it should always be cherished. Before my Aunt passed away I knew I had little time left with her, so I stuck to her like glue.
That same year my Aunt passed away on September 15th of 2016.
It was hard. It was hard on all of us.
For the longest time I always wished that she could come back, but a part of me knew it wouldn’t happen. I didn’t grieve, and even if I could, I didn’t know how to, when she died I was completely numb to the situation.
My grief soon turned into a strong hate.
After my Aunt’s passing, my family started going to church, during the mass while the Father was preaching I remember he said, “God brings miracles to those that are good.” When the father said that, I was so angry that I walked out of the church. From that day on I always blamed God for my Aunt’s death because if he was meant to bring miracles to good people, why couldn’t have saved my Aunt. Having stored all my rage within myself, doubt of my religion surged through me, making me wonder if I even believed in God.
I was confused, angry, and frustrated.
Soon after, I fell into depression, the feeling of my life spiraling out of control, was just the beginning of my chaos. I felt lost, alone, numb, worthless, and empty. I did nothing but cry. When I looked into the mirror all I could see was the reflection of dead eyes. My depression was like watching someone else live inside my body.
Eventually, I got the help that was needed and started integrating back into society, talking to friends, posting on my social media, but my life just wasn’t the same.
It’s ironic because as a kid, your childhood is meant to be lived with carelessness and liberty, but sometimes you just have to grow up a little faster than you anticipated. But what I realized, is that life is a rollercoaster that everyone goes through, and it’s not easy. Going through the transition from a life, one filled with lots of joy and happiness, to one full of hate, grief, and chaos not only resulted in a broken family but also in a broken girl.
Nine months after my Aunt’s death– just a week before May finished– my mom had a seizure. She was in a coma for three days, the doctors ran multiple tests on her, eventually, she woke up. But, we then found out that she had a cancerous tumor in the frontal lobe of her brain.
I remember I could feel myself just drowning, I knew that my depression was slowly creeping back into my life, and if it continued, it was going to come back stronger than ever. But, for my sake and for my family’s, I wouldn’t let it get to me, instead, I found a way to cope with all of my stress, and frustration, by running.
Running helped me focus on my breathing, my posture, and my music. But it mostly helped me push all the thoughts, I didn’t want to think about, away.
But having said that, I regret it so much, because I never fully acknowledged that my love for running, allowed me to think that running was good when all I was doing was running away from the problems I didn’t want to confront.
But just like the situation with my Aunt, I always stayed by my Mom’s side afraid of losing her. I stopped running, for both my own sake and for my family’s, because I wanted them to know that I love them, especially my mom.
But, thanks to these experiences I have learned that life can’t always be a straight road, instead there will always be a bend in the road.