January 17

Rising towards the expectations of others (Polished Lit Exploration)

Talha Muhammad

Lit Exploration

October 23, 2018

 

Rising Towards The Expectations Of Others

 

Our beliefs towards certain things/concepts are often influenced by are family in an attempt to rise or to exceed their expectations. This is seen in the film,  ¨A River Runs Through It¨ as Norman struggles to please his father and rise towards the expectations that has been placed on him. Individuals will have to struggle for a period of time before meeting their kin´s expectations. Individuals with the desire to rise to their kins expectations will often change their minds towards the decisions they previously made in order to please their kin.

 

Individuals often fear betraying their kin´s expectations as they have a deeply rooted fear in them in going against their expectations given to them. In the film, ¨A River Runs Through It¨  we see Norman in his father’s office feeling nostalgic of his childhood. His father the minister have a chat together about his future aspirations. Just as he is about to answer something his father wouldn’t want to hear he picks up his red pen and Norman quickly changes his answer. Norman is in his father’s office and is talking about his future aspirations with his father but suddenly changes his answer when his father picks up his red pen. Norman still has fears of disappointing his father by giving him an answer that he would not like to here. Despite Norman maturing towards the time he had gone to further his education he still fears his fatherś red pen which he used to correct his mistakes when he was small. Individuals that have not escaped their past or are often haunted by it will find it difficult to move forward towards their aspirations and beliefs Norman, despite maturing while he was away he still changes his decisions when he sees his father´s dissatisfaction.

 

Individuals often have a sense of relief and happiness when they have risen towards the towards both their and their parents expectations. In the film, ¨A River Runs Through It¨ we see Norman sitting on the dining table with his entire family including Paul. Norman talks to his whole family about him gaining acceptance to a university and making the decision to accept it. Everyone is excited that he is about to become a real professor and his father openly admits for the first time that he is pleased with Norman. Norman talks to his family in the dining room about him gaining and accepting the invitation from the university and his father looks relieved for the first time as one of his sons is moving on to the next stages of his life. Norman has exceeded his father’s expectation by getting an acceptance letter from a university for a teaching position and accepting it, moving on to the next stage in his life. Norman is ready to move on to the next stage in his life and no longer has to worry about his father’s expectations that binded him like shackles in his life. Once an individual is freed from others expectations they can move on freely in life and work towards their future goals without having to worry about them anymore. Individuals that have risen to their kin´s expectation no longer have to face this pressure that they have to change their goals to make them happy.

 

Individuals that try to please their kin through changing their goals often struggle to accomplish them later on. An example of where I try to meet with my father’s expectation is last year when I was trying to raise my grades towards math to his satisfaction. That time was difficult as I had a lot going on in my different subjects so I had to make time to from my other subjects to do math in order to make him happy. In order to raise my grade for math I had to make time for my other subjects to make him happy. I had to allocate more time towards math than my other subjects in order to meet with my father´s expectations. Individuals that often try to make more time for things often find themselves working frantically to meet up with others expectations.

 

Individuals will attempt to meet their expectations alongside their parents expectations in order to pursue their happiness. Individuals often strive to meet the expectations that are given to them even if it means leaving their family in order to pursue greater knowledge, to ensure greater success later on in life.

 

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October 29

Why Is It That The People Who need the Most Help Won’t Take It

Image result for helping hand animationIndividuals are often afraid or stubborn when comes down to asking for help. They refuse to accept the hand that others are extending to them as possess no the desire to change within themselves. They often don’t see a problem in their way of life and they don’t want others to point out their flaws for them.

 

An example of this in the film “A River Runs Through It” as Paul often refuses to accept the help that Norman and his parents provide for him. We often see him shaking off his troubles while acting like nothing happened afterwords. Although he does not accept help of others, their actions still influence him as he does not become the worst he can possibly be. He sees the worst of what he could have become through Neal who is the extreme version of Paul as he is a fame seeker, braggart, liquor lover, and flirt. He is still thankful of the effort that his family puts in for him to help him in comparison to Noel’s family.

 

I can sometimes relate to this as I can be resistant to asking for help depending on the situation. If the situation is bad I would ask for help but if it isn’t,  I would try to handle it on my own. An example of this would be when if I’m studying for tests. If I don’t get the concept of what I’m learning I would ask my teacher, but if I am just having problems with some minor issues such as missing having gaps in my knowledge I would deal with it myself.

 

I believe that individuals more often than not choose not to get help as they believe that they would fare better without others interfering in there matters. I believe that we sometimes fail to recognize that we need help or that someone is extending their hand because we look like we need help.

 

 

 

 

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December 31

Remember How We Forgot

Remember how we forgot?
How we never actually played by the rules we were taught
Because each thought came from our minds and our imaginations were running wild, and our dreams included becoming princesses, rock stars, dinosaurs, and garbage men.
And nobody told us we couldn’t because after all, we were just “silly kids”?
Remember how the worst fights were over who broke the brightest crayon and who got the last bite but everyone was still friends
Because, that was before we were taught that all good things must end?
Remember when love filled our hearts, instead of draining them,
So we never dared bet against Annie because we were absolutely sure that the Sun would come out tomorrow,
For everyone?

Then we reached high school,
Then we “grew up”,
Remember how we forgot?
We started going by all the rules against which we fought.
And our thoughts became as standardized as the tests we took.
We gave up hope on becoming princesses when society told us there were no happy endings.
The stars in our eyes dimmed when musicians were replaced by a computer with a pretty face.
We forgot about T-rex when our creativity was thrown out by the “5 paragraph essay.”
So we assumed the role of garbage man and took out the “trash”
With every FCAT, SAT, ACT, ABC test they could think of
To measure our aptitude, to measure our achievement.
Then society preached individuality and originality
When the reality is that it was driven out of us
The same way the innocence was driven out of us when the fights turned into wars,
When arguments couldn’t be solved with a simple, “I’m sorry,”
When we lost friends over race, greed, and mistakes.
And hearts began breaking more often than beating because that’s when we stopped believing in the sureness of the Sun.

But I think society does that on purpose—
Tries to create formulas for every aspect of our lives.
I think they do that to separate us from the imitators,
The contenders from the pretenders,
The motivated and passionate from the ones who gave up and gave in because if there is one thing I have learned, it is that without passion, you have nothing.
Every single obstacle we have overcome was deliberately set in our path to test us.
We are those who looked, laughed, and rose to the challenge.
We did what we needed to do and more by staying true to ourselves and to our dreams.
We worked hard and made it.

We’re here.
Our dreams may have shifted, but our fire is lit.
So no matter what we become;
Doctors, teachers, CEOs, or beach bums,
I implore you to be an inspiration to all and to never again forget how all of our paths have crossed,
How we’ve shaped and inspired each other in these pivotal years of our lives.
Never again forget the friends we’ve made,
The memories we’ve created,
The causes for which we’ve fought.
Never again forget the simplicity and unpredictability of this phenomenon we call life.

Rather, take these ideas and these beliefs
And transform them into a life of passion, a life of purpose and pass it on.
Build your legacy out of what you have done and what you are doing for others, not yourself, because one day, you won’t be here anymore and
One day, people may forget you.
But I promise you that if you lead a life of selflessness, of inspiration, of passion,
Then your fire won’t be quieted with your breath and it will be remembered.
It will take more than one person to change this world, to undo what we’ve done,
But I know for a fact that it only takes one to inspire, to motivate, and to believe that a change will come and that is a contagious idea.
So catch this fever and together as one
We’ll spread it like a wildfire never to be extinguished.
And even when we are, somebody somewhere will know that it was us who started the fire.

Shane Koyczan

 

“I implore you to be an inspiration to all and to never again forget how all of our paths have crossed,
How we’ve shaped and inspired each other in these pivotal years of our lives.
Never again forget the friends we’ve made,
The memories we’ve created,
The causes for which we’ve fought.
Never again forget the simplicity and unpredictability of this phenomenon we call life.”

As everyone is growing up- my friends, peers, cousins, siblings, anyone; one tends to forgot how we become who we are. Because of the people surrounding us. We are inspired and are let down by the people around us, who motivate or discourage you, whatever it may be, they have affected you.

In high school, individuals surrounding one are on the same journey as you- but ending up differently. A doctor, engineer, nurse, social worker, psychologist- will see them all. From my perspective, we all have helped each other rise and succeed which is evident in the smallest actions. Not only academically, but otherwise, at school dances, graduation, birthday parties we all have experienced the ‘new’ together. Embrace what talents and skills one another have.

This relates to my personal life as well, with who I grew up with, the support system I had throughout my childhood and adolescence. Family. My parents. Siblings. Cousins. These are the people who shaped my opinions, dreams, aspirations. I tend to forget that my path has and still crosses with these people. Most of them are still an important influence and part of my life- which I forget about. My parents- who brought me into this world where I have anything, am protected, safe, have a full table of food for me available whenever, wherever. The sacrifices they have made- I forget about- to make my dreams possible.

~Not to forget about those who inspired you to become who you have become or want to be in the future. “How we shaped and inspired each other in these pivotal years of our lives.”

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December 31

Influence of Others

The Influence of Others

 

In an individual’s life, one is faced with situations in which other people’s values and opinions influence them. The excerpt, ‘Beat the Odds’, National Football League player, Michael Oher, demonstrates a man who realizes the impact of an individual throughout his childhood. Sometimes, individuals need the idea of motivation, acceptance, viewpoint, and advice from others to push them to pursue their aspirations or the idea of determination for themselves. It is the action of others to drive them. In the film, ‘A River Runs through It’ directed by Robert Redford, we become familiar with Norman Maclean, who is a man struggling to ideally please his father with the decisions he has made throughout his life. The idea of receiving acceptance from others to fulfill your satisfaction, impacts your decisions negatively and positively.

Throughout your life, there is always an individual you are either trying to please, get approval of, or just someone who just motivates you. Since middle school, I have always appreciated my grade eight teacher. That year, I had just moved schools and I was known as the ‘new kid’. The whole class was very kind and welcoming. I fit in right away. But when I first met her, first period, math class, I say she was the most welcoming. The very first things she ever said to me was “Please do not worry about what others have to say in this class, if you are ever struggling or not, do not be ashamed.” She was very laid- back. You can get that vibe when you first meet her. I really did not get what she meant by that at first, but throughout the school year I started to realize. She used to make few mistakes while teaching us a math lesson or while trying to explain what the cytoplasm, whatever it is, obviously, quite of few individuals used to judge her for that. All she was say is “Don’t worry guys, I am only human.” From those words, I knew she did not let other people influence her, whether it be a mistake or a decision, she always pursued whatever she wanted to be in life. Now, I am an active student, instead of a quiet one, doing whatever I can to pursue my dreams after high school by not letting other individuals to impact those aspirations. She allowed me to realize that with her own values and opinions.

‘Beat the Odds’ is an excerpt about a man who pursue his dream of becoming an athlete through the influence of his grade four teacher. Michael Oher, who is now a National Football player found himself fond of sports throughout his childhood. As Michael was growing up, he became aware of how Ms. Logan became such a big part of his life, how much her encouragement and her words influenced him as he grew up. Ms. Logan made Micheal realize his love for sports and his ability to play by valuing his ability to play during recess or gym, by letting him know what he could achieve in the future. As he is now a grown man with a astonishing career, Michael still reminisces that encouragement and determination he received from her helped shape him as an individual.

In the film, A River Runs Through It , we are introduced to Norman Maclean, who is influenced throughout his life by his father, Reverend Maclean, the church minister. While growing up, Norman always valued of pleasing and receiving approval from his father. This is evident when Norman and his younger Paul, discuss what they what to be when they grow up, right away Norman replies with ‘minister’. This demonstrates that Norman assumed that he needs to become whatever his father approves and values, religion and church. As Norman gets older, he goes to college and receives a degree in education, which is approved by his father, but has the desire of working in the forestry business. As evident in the film, he compromises his dream, and applies for teaching positions. This resulted with an individual being impacted long-term due to the value and influence of another individual, the encouragement and inspiration which developed to impact the future of the individual.

Any individual can influence one to do anything, from encouraging them to play ball at recess to what career is acceptable, whatever it may be. The action of others to recognize the talents, abilities, qualifications we may have, drive us to become and shape into the specific individual that they influence us to be.

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December 19

Still I Rise by Maya Angelou – I Forgive You by Suhaani Jain

Still I Rise

by Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

 

I Forgive You

by Suhaani Jain

Do you remember how I was hurt with your words?

Do you remember how it made me feel?

Do you remember how I told you to STOP?

Do you still hear my screams and shrieks at night?

Because I can still hear your words…

Echoing in my ears…

every day,

every minute,

every second…  

of my life.

 

Does it bother you I learned from my mistakes?

Does it bother you I finally accepted who I am?

Does it bother you I stopped seeking your approval?

Because I just don’t care anymore.

Does it bother you that I am not one of your puppets anymore?

Does it bother you I stopped letting you drag my soul down?

Does it bother you I stopped crying myself to sleep?

Because I now sleep in peace.

 

Does it bother you that I am more capable than ever?

Does it bother you that I stopped caring about and listening to your words?

Does it bother you that I am confident?

Does it bother you that I let go of things that weighed me down?

Because I did and I couldn’t be more happier.

 

Does it bother you that I MOVED ON?

Because I realized you

weren’t worth

My pain,

My tears,

And my life

has never been better.

 

 

Reason Why…

It’s like

Gripping

On to shards of glass,

Believing it would numb the pain.

But I realize it cuts deeper than the surface.

Ripping open the capillaries

With no hesitation,

Severing the nerves

Without a second thought.

By the time I realized

it did more harm than good,

It was too late.

The damage had been done.

The work of the monster/enemy

Is now

irreversible.

For the longest time, I thought this friendship was worth the pain and suffering. I gave it many chances, hoping each day, the next would be better, and hoping each day it would be worth my while. I stood by you when the whole world was against you. I supported you at your absolute worst. I was there when you needed a shoulder to cry on. I was there when your so called “friends” betrayed you. I always believed in you, and I went out of my way to protect you and stand up for you. I disregarded the hell you put me through because I saw that you needed a friend. I went against everyone who loved and cared for me. I went against those who wanted the best for me and those who told me to stay away from you, they said you would cause nothing me but pain and despair. That you would fill my life with nothing but darkness. I stood up against EVERYONE for you. I myself was broken, yet I pulled myself back up so I could be there for you. You used me, lied to me, took advantage of me and my friendship. Every single time, I gave you a chance, I wanted you to prove to me that I was right about you. I wanted you to prove to me that you weren’t what others were saying you are. Instead, all you ended up doing was proving them right, each and every single thing they said about you was true. You proved me wrong. You pushed me down repeatedly, but, then you picked me back up, only to push me back down again. You made me feel absolutely worthless. Even after all this when you were in my position, I took you under my cocoon and protected you. You repeatedly broke me and my trust. Yet, I forgive you, for the times you used me, for the times you made me live in self-loath, for all those times you disrespected me and this friendship. And I forgive you because I don’t want to remember you in anyway. I don’t want any part of you in my life. Moving forward I want to be able to remember those moments in my life that I cherish and am proud of and none of those moments involve you. None.

 

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November 13

Experiences

My Experiences: Part 1- High School

 

High school… There is only a couple of months left of it. It is true when they say “high school goes by fast.” “Enjoy the last years of high school, you’re going to miss it.” I never took those words seriously. Time. I never gave the term ‘time’ any thought, I always thought that there was always enough time, enough time to get my grades up, to finish that book for English class, to finish my math homework, anything. Honestly, there is never enough time. Almost 13 years of school completed, and now I know there is not enough time. Now, I know nothing lasts forever and high school guaranteed that for me.

You know what else? I am the worst at saying goodbyes. I always tend to think that a new start will be a bad start. I hate change. I think it is just fear of starting something new, something I am not used to.

I never thought about how drastically my life is really going to change after graduation. Throughout the 13 years of my life, the people I met and grew up with, I came to the realization of how difficult it is going to be, knowing the fact that we are not going to see each other again. “Hope we stay friends after high school,” are we really? Probably not. I guess that is just how it is. Leaving high school is a realization. Realizing what my friends have grew up to be, what they aspire to be, their dreams and ambitions they want to achieve. There is so much more to them that I never knew,  more than I ever thought in all these years.

I know, I can see, the anxiousness, worry, tension, in my classmates and friends. The word ‘university’ makes everyone’s hair rise on the back of their necks, including mine; without being fully aware that there is much more to look forward to after high school. The pressure upon us, from parents, teachers, friends, even from ourselves, take control over our decisions, our aspirations, our wishes without realizing it. The quote “Graduation is not the ending, it is just the beginning,” reminds me of that, the opportunity to gain new experiences, skills, knowledge, relationships. High school is just the beginning. From all I learnt in high school, I understand the importance of the values, beliefs, relationships, knowledge, experiences gained from the dreading years of school. These factors make an individual, whether they are lessons or blessings. High school may be one’s worst or best years of their lives, whatever it may be, they do make you who you are- “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times” -Charles Dickens.

 

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November 9

Tata <3

You mean the WORLD to me.

Like, rain makes rainbows

In the naked sky

Like, spring makes flowers  

Bloom in the sun

The same way

You made me feel alive

You are a cozy blanket for me in the winter

And a soft breeze of air in the summer

You are the love of my life, my hero, and my guardian angel

My strength and

My weakness

 

My life is dedicated to my best friend, my hero, the man I love most.  He means everything to me. The years where he could reach out and hold my hand have faded, and he only lives on in my memories, my words, my soul.

You know how someone will tell you that you don’t realize the value of things until they disappear? That what you take for granted in the morning is never seen of again by night?  I have never stopped and thought about what I have done to deserve his love,

and his unceasing support. He is someone I have looked up to and will continue looking up to for infinity and more, both figuratively and literally. He is my guardian angel.

I miss him. Maybe I miss him a little too much. I didn’t speak to him every day when he was alive, but I guess just knowing he was there was enough for me to go through my day with a smile on my face.


I miss him because of his smile. I miss the way I could talk to him about just the most random topics on this planet. I miss the fact that he was just there for me. I miss the little gestures he made whenever he wanted something. The way he turned his index finger when he wanted me to turn off the fan for him. The way he played air piano with one hand when he needed the remote. But what I really miss? Love.

He loved me more than a father, took care of me better than a mother, protected me better than a brother and stood by my better than a sister. He never let me feel like I was rejected and unworthy. He gave me a voice, a life and everything I am today or ever will be because of his love and affection. He wasn’t the most educated person in my life but he still taught me some of the life’s most valuable lessons. He taught me to love myself, he taught me to accept myself, he taught me the difference between right and wrong, and most of all he taught me to believe in myself.

He loved me more than I think I will ever love myself. He took me in when the entire world rejected me. It was the two of us against the world and yet I felt the most powerful with him.

I guess that’s the power of love.

 

He showered me with unconditional love. And now it’s something I feel incomplete without, yet I still feel his presence. I still feel him smiling at me from the stars above. I feel empty without him in my life; it was like darkness fell over my life within seconds, to the point where now I am blinded by the light. But I’m learning to live again, to live happily without him in my life and I know that he will always be there for me.


If there is one thing I’m proud of is being called his granddaughter.

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September 27

The Attack

Jan 2014 Visual Diagnostic (1)-p81j0l

My job was hard. It had many aspects to it. I had to fight, protest, and in some cases even kill. It was another usual day at work where I had a pile of assignments ready on my desk as I stepped into the office. Searching through the files, as I normally do, one caught my eye, spying on a young boy named Arjun. Many thoughts starting running through my head. Why would I need to be spying on a young boy who had just started to live life? Was he in trouble? Was he okay? I needed to find out before time runs out.

 

I finished the rest of my assignments as quickly as possible and reached the grounds where Arjun was playing soccer with an older man, his father. The scene looked normal at first, and that is when the young boy’s red shirt caught my attention. Red, the symbol of blood and signifying trouble. He wasn’t a normal boy, although he sure did seem like one. He looked happy, but what was bothering him?  Something needed to be done.

 

I continued to investigate the situation. Every evening the father and son played soccer at a site, a building which had been burned and crumpled to pieces. The roads were not in good condition either. Why would this be the placed they played? I thought to myself. Is there no field close to their home? Did they even have a home?

 

As time went on, I started to finally put the bits and pieces together. Arjun was adopted. His father was born and brought up in India, he was not a believer in adoption. His mother always wanted a child, but it was impossible for her since she did not have the ability to give birth. That is when she decided she wanted to adopt a child. Soon after the adoption, she had passed away due to an illness. Every evening, the father and son played soccer. By playing soccer, he began to gain the trust of Arjun. His father was planning an attack. I needed to protect him.

 

The day had finally come. It was another evening where Arjun and his father came to play soccer. As soon as they were done playing a round or two, I saw Arjun’s father pointing to the building that was burned. they started walking towards the building. “Arjun!” I yelled out. He turned around, and bang! The bullet from my gun had shot his father right in the heart. His father was dead.

 

I took Arjun back to my office and asked him several questions. He kept crying and kept saying, “Why did you kill my father?” I explained the entire scenario and he finally calmed down.

 

Later that day, I took him down to the adoption center to find him eligible parents.

 

The next morning, I had a report sitting on my desk. It was regarding Arjun. A family had adopted him and he was very happy.

 

I had fulfilled my job. Protecting people. I worked hard day and night to make that possible.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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September 16

My Persistence In Life

Let go of what’s holding you back.

You may have many things from your past that you are holding on to, just let them go. Holding onto grudges, anger, and regret will not get you anywhere. You may be angry at your friend for some reason and if you decide to hold a grudge against something they did you will gain absolutely nothing. So, let go of that one thing in the back of your mind that is still bothering you, because it is just stored there as useless information and nothing more. Let go of that thing and see how relaxed and happy you feel once you have it off your shoulder.

All that matters is what you think of yourself!

Yeah, others have an opinion about you, some may be good ones and some may be bad ones, but all that does not matter because what they think of you does not define you. What you think about yourself is the only thing that does. Be brave enough to not believe in what others are saying about you and tell them that it does not affect your true self. Don’t ever let others judgment get the best of you. Show them you are better than what they think of you, not through words but through actions.

Reach out, someone will always be there to hold your hand. 

Never be afraid to ask for help, don’t ever think seeking help is only for the weak. In fact, seeking for help is one of the bravest things. One should have the courage to ask for help when needed, whether it be at school, or for personal problems. Don’t ever hold yourself back just because you are afraid of judgment. Everyone at one point will be judged but that should never stop anyone from being able to seek help when they need it.

Don’t live in your past.

Sometimes we get hung up on things from our past and we forget to live in the moment. I was 12 years old when I first moved to Toronto, Ontario. It was my first day at my new school, I was really excited to be making new friends and to just be part of a new community. I just wanted to experience happiness and fit in. I guess that was not the plan for me. I only stayed in that school for 6 months but I may have had the worst memories. I was bullied constantly because I was myself, but my aunts had always taught me being myself was the best thing I could be, but I guess it was not true in Canada (or so I thought). It came to the point when I refused to go to school some days because I just couldn’t take it. I guess that’s when I met my best friend Vishwak. He told me he experienced the same things as I did but he never let it get to him because he did not care what others said about him. He helped move past all the obstacles I faced at my school. Just when we were getting to know each other more and started appreciating each other in our lives, I had to move, I know the most devasting, leaving my first best friend behind. We lost touch after I moved to Calgary. I was also the “new” kid in my junior when I moved to Calgary. I really taught it would be different here but I guess I was wrong AGAIN. Just because I looked different and had a different accent, it did not give them the right to treat me the way they did. This was one the hardest times of my life because, my hero and my best friend (my grandpa) was fighting for his life at the hospital, I was emotionally disturbed by the fact that I may never get to see my hero ever again. It was just even more devasting when I could not attend his funeral due to problems with my visa. This was the time I need my best friend the most but while moving I had lost all my contacts of him. I must have done something wrong to someone at some point to lose my best friend especially the time I needed him the most. I was able to reconnect with him in grade 10 but we had lost such huge parts of each other’s lives, I don’t think I will ever be able to reconnect with him. I hope one day we will be able to reconnect again because I really miss my best friend, he was there for me when no one else was. I tried staying stong every day at school, by just remember the things he had told me in Toronto. I would be lying if I said it did not help me, but it was same as him being there to tell me that everything gets better. I may have never missed him that much. I literally used to cry myself to sleep somedays because it was just something I could not take anymore. This also the time I met two people who I really admire and appreciate Shiksha and Ayushi. They were there for me in ways, I could not even imagine. But I guess everything changed when we got a new vice principal Mr. Leavitt. He was my savior, my entire junior high experience changed when he moved to our school, in many ways he was able to help me get through the pain and suffering, but I could have never gotten through my junior without the support I received from Shiksha and Ayushi. Many times I relive those moments and wonder what I had done wrong to have such heartbreaking experiences. First I lose my best friend and then my grandpa, but my friends made me realize by living reliving moments from my past I would be missing out on many opportunities that come my way. I will never forget my junior experiences because they made me who I am now, I will always miss Viskwak, his beautiful friendship and his presence in my life. And my hero, he will forever stay in my heart and in a way he gives me the strength to keep moving regardless of the obstacles I face. I know Shiksha and Ayushi will always have my back, will help me get through everything and anything I face. They are my constant reminder of the fact that I should let off the things that have happened in my past and live in the present and just enjoy it because we only live once. 

Just because the world is right side up, doesn’t mean you have to be too! 

The society we live in makes us believe that everyone has to be the same and being different is not okay. But I absolutely don’t believe that; everyone has their own way of expressing themselves just because it’s not your way doesn’t mean it is the wrong way. Be different, wear a red lipstick with a yellow blazer, just BE YOURSELF because there aren’t any of you in this world.

Everyone has their own definitions of “perfect”! 

The word perfect has so many different meanings to it. Out of 7 billion people on this planet, every single one of them has a different definition of perfect. Just because your definition does not match mine, does not mean there are flaws in. It just means we look at the world with a different perspective. The note that is below the line, it’s just perfect the way it is. If we move it up or down, so it fits in with the rest of the notes, it will not create the same sound. The same way, if you try to change yourself because you want to fit in; you will lose the meaning of your life. Therefore, don’t worry about fitting in with your group of friends, find a group of friends where you don’t have to change who you are, where you came from, or how you want to live your life.

 

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September 16

Muskaan- Powerful Philosophies

Live each second

 We all have one life. One chance to do whatever we desire. To strive for our goals and achieve success. Every moment should be captured. You never know when you might die. You might die in one second from now. Live every moment like it is your last. When one moment is gone, it is not going to come back. Ever. Life is a journey with failures and successes. Although life may not give you the opportunities you are looking for at times, there is always a way to pass that hardship and still be happy with life. Live every moment and shine your individual personality every moment that you get.

Trust is important in every relationship

I believe trust is the basis of every relationship. Trust is what makes every relationship unique. Trust is what is the initial step that has to be taken in order for anything to occur before that. If there is no trust in a relationship, the relationship is either never going to begin or is coming to a stop. In my opinion, trust is a symbol of love, reliability, honesty, and teamwork.

Love is a strong word that emphasizes the word trust in every letter. Love is an essential element in every relationship and it ties hand in hand with trust. The ability to feel comfortable around someone and always show your true self is an element of trust.Two people need to be working together in order for trust to be there.

 Seek help when needed

Always ask for help when you need it. Although you may feel strong and independent it is always important to ask for help at times when you need it.

When I was in grade 6, I got bullied in school because I was the new kid that everyone wanted to pick on. I got pushed around, called names, and get small things like my rubber band stolen. It was a rough time for me since I was not comfortable with the new school environment. I asked for help from my parents and teachers. The help had led me to where I am today. It has made me strong, bold, and independent.

From that experience I learned that the people surrounding you are always there to help whenever you need it. you can always reach out and grab their hand in any circumstance that arises. Have the power to stand up for yourself.

Everything is possible

A belief is all it takes. A belief that everything that you encounter in life can be accomplished through hard work and dedication. During times of stress, some situations may appear harder than they actually are. You have the power to overpower the obstacles. There is always a solution to every problem. If there is no solution, there probably was not problem in the first place. Working hard through the situations that may seem impossible has the best results at the end.

The ladder to success may be a hard path

Success is a journey that takes its own route. It brings many bumps along the way that teach you things about yourself. The definition of success is different for everyone. It may be working your dream job or making your parents happy. I believe that whatever you wish to achieve can be obtained. Putting in the work and effort to gain success will certainly lead to success as the end result.

 

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