October 30

The power of influence

prompt: Write a personal about your relationship with your sibling, or how your father or mother influenced you, or what skills or talents do you have. (inspired by Paul and Norman’s relationships/ influences)

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My parents have influenced me in many ways over the years in a lot of things and its not just them its also my brother, video games, and friends. Even now that I am in high school they still influence me to make good decisions and to do good in school so I can have a good life after I finish school. Through out my entire life they have wanted me to good and be successful in whatever I do.  They always tell me not to give up and fallow what I believe in. since my parents always influenced me I learned how to work on cars because that was something my dad and grand father did as well so now I have a love for cars and I work on them when ever I get a chance. this is like Paul and Norman when they go fly-fishing with there dad and like to do it when they can even on there own.

It’s not just my parents who influence me it’s my brother also who plays a roll in my life because he is always telling me if I do something to do it right. He is the reason I like to drive and like playing video games.  He tells me if I do something just to be careful. His influence on me is that he has thought me to be careful about my surroundings and make sure that I am safe when I go out for example to make sure that no one is fallowing me.

Something else that has had a big influence on my life is video games I have played them all my life and they help me relieve stress and they have thought me how not to handle some situation. I play video games on my free time so it influences me to stay in the house instead of going out alone and doing something bad. When I am not playing video games I am out with friends. Friends is something else that influences me to do things like go out and work out because I go to the gym with them and we play basket ball and work out together. I have also had a influence on my family and friends as wall the digest influence is on my friends tho because I uselessly make all the plans. I am uselessly a good influence because I have had different influences around me my entire life and I  have learned how to get people to fallow me and listen to what I say. Some times I can be a bad influences on people but I try not be because it is one thing if I get in trouble but I don’t want to be responsible for getting my friends in trouble.

In my life I have many things that influence my decision and what I do. One of my favorite quotes is “it is easier to influence strong then weak characters in life”by Margret Asquith. To me this means to take influence from strong and confident people I believe that I am one of those strong people who influences others.

October 30

The Marathon Of Hope

“people need to know that their not alone”

When I read this quote I immediately thought of an experience that my sister had. In grade eight she was on the track team and it was her first time going to any competition. She was enjoying it so much and she even got first place in most of her races. The day started coming to an end and it was time for my sister to run her last race. Everyone was cheering so loud for all of the girls and it gave my sister the motivation to go even faster. In doing so she fell and scraped her elbow, knee’s and her back. My sister was so humiliated but when she heard that everyone was cheering for her it gave her even more motivation to get back up. She got up and she started running as fast as she could and in the process she passed two people. The crowd gave her the feeling that she was not alone and made her feel that everyone was cheering for her to finish the race. My sister didn’t even know these people and they made her feel like  everyone was rooting for her which gave her the extra strength she needed. Individuals in life are constantly needing the feeling that they are not alone and people are by their side rooting them on in life. Even if it is small or big people can make a lasting impact in others lives and make them feel like they have someone their with them even if it is a complete stranger. In life their will always be people supporting you till the very end whether you realize it or not. Their are numerous different models in life simply like this one where complete outsiders are giving a shout out to them to prevail throughout everyday life. Their was a track star and amidst his race he pulled his hamstring and it didn’t appear as though he would make it until the point that his father came surging close by to enable him to finish. His father was his crutch nearly till the end and after that he wanted to complete the race by himself. The reason that he could complete the race was because his father gave him the strength he needed to complete it.

“Never fear being alone, because you never are”

 

October 30

Win or Lose; Does it really matter?

Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose but in every case — You Learn

-Randy Pausch

 

Life is like stumbling through a dark tunnel hoping to find a bright light at the end, sometimes you take a wrong turn on this path but how you deal with these diverts from the original will determine what you learn from your journey. Winning and losing each bring something different to the receiver but no matter the outcome what you learn from the situations is always of greater value than of the win itself or greater the tragedy of the lose.

My life has been full of some amazing and life changing wins, but before I was presented with massive payouts and shiny buckles the only thing I had to show was the dreaded participated ribbon. Looking back now those small, dinky ribbon had greater value in lessons than any of the buckles sitting on my shelf have. What I passed off as an insignificant show of my failure was actually the drive behind my soon to come success. What followed the receiving of these ribbons were often tears, thoughts of selling my horse and then finally the lesson; the lesson to persevere even when it feel as though result will never show. As the fails began to grow in numbers the lesson only grew in strength. Failure taught me what it is like to want something so bad that it becomes completely consuming. For 2 years after constant clapping for other winners I decided things were going to change. Ropes, reins, and constant contact with the ground became my daily reality as i attempted to train a young horse in to a well behaved winning machine. Failure not only taught me how to bounce back it also taught me to fuel my desire to win with my failures.

Though I learned many things from losing I also learned massive lessons from the wins that have blessed my life.  When competing I often got so caught up in the need for a win that I forgot to have fun with those I compete against. This not only made competing significantly less fun it also taught me that life is not all about the win and more about what you learn on your road to success. When I first got my new horse, Jackson, I forgot to take a break from my game face to meet the new people that I was competing with. As the competition year went on what I gained in wins others gained in friendship. Buckles are not nearly as fun as friends and competitions became a chore rather than a fun time. Though I was winning I quickly learned that winning is nothing if you do not have anyone to share the success with. As time has passed I have learned to balance my want to win with my need to socialize with the perceived enemy of the time. Winning is not the only goal the first thing must be to have fun and this I had to learn through my journey to success.

Win or lose; no matter what the outcome there is always a lesson that comes along with them. Through many years of hard losses and lonely wins i have learned to rise from my failures and enjoy the journey to a win more than the wins themselves.

October 29

My Beloved Keeper

Write about someone who you love and take responsibility for / or someone who feels that for you (i.e. a sibling/friend/etc…)

“Sweet, crazy conversations full of half sentences, daydreams and misunderstandings more thrilling than understanding could ever be.”

– Toni Morrison

Dear Keeper,

 

Would it not be so fortunate to know that there is always someone behind you who will stick by your side and never leave you, like how the letter Q does with U? Someone who will find the time in their hectic lives, ignoring the fact where they are at the physical moment and  just come beside you so you could lay your heavy head against their shoulders?

Just knowing that someone is always there for me, no matter what I may be going through or whom I may have grown into, is undoubtedly a blessing. A blessing that understands me, holds me secure from any danger including conflicts, toxic influences, and is just there for me in times of need.

This blessing is you.

You are like my shadow who follows me everywhere I go, not leaving me alone in the unknown world; you are present at every step of my life and at every decision of my life. Even though the sun may not be seen at times, this shadow of yours will always remain by me; your presence will always be felt until I breathe for the last time.  

From giving advice’s when I am utterly confused, to comforting me when I need it the most, you have done it all. You have done things that no one else will, with the exception of my parents. I am fortunate to know that you will always have my back, that you will never stop believing in me and understanding me.

I still remember the time when you and I had ran away from the house, not because we were immature teens, but because we were adventurous toddlers. I was narrated this incident in detail as I did not have a strong memory at that time, especially when I was only three. I had been told how everyone was unaware of where we went, which caused endless phone calls being made to my father. Both of my parents were so worried for both of us, and who knows what may have been circling through their minds. My father reassured my mother knowing that nothing could harm us, even though there were possibilities of a tragedy. Something about the connection that I may share with my father spoke to him and told him where we may be. The very first place he told my mother to check after searching every corner of the house was no other, but the playground.

What my mother told me of what she saw when she reached the playground spoke to my heart. It touched my soul. There in the distance was you, my sister, my elder sister,  standing right beside me. Your comforting hand enclosed with mine, our palms pressed together gave me a sense of security. Although you were only four, you safely took me to the playground that was near our house as our mother had forgotten that day. Every day our mother would take us to the park so that we could enjoy the wonders of the world; except that one day she forgot, and you were the one who fulfilled that responsibility towards me. You were the one who showed me a replication of my mother, someone who could be my second mother, someone who could shower me with the same affection and someone whom I could look up to.

My keeper was indeed my sister.

On gloomy days, when my world is being torn into pieces, seeming as if I am breaking apart, you have come to me. You have caressed my head and with each stroke, I have felt calmer and less vulnerable. I felt as though my world may become whole again, felt as though my sister will actually correct everything. In fact, you have hands of an angel, a mind so clear, and a heart so pure. With your comforting hands, you have sewn the interminable pieces of my heart back together. My heart may not have been returned to its original with no signs of grief and sorrow, but it has left a mark of you. A mark that will remind me that my sister will do her possible best in bringing a smile to my face. A mark that shows your existence at every step of my life, telling me that you will support me and never leave me alone. 

From the time I was young and up until now, you and I have cried together, laughed together, caused trouble together; we have grown up together. If there was no you, there would not have been I, and if there was no I, there would not have been you. Something would have been incomplete, a sense of emptiness, if one of us were not there. It would just not be normal without you.

I cannot imagine my life without you, because without you, there is no question of my existence. Without you, who am I? The confidence I have right now is because of you, the strength I have developed to face all my worries is because of you, the responsibility that I show towards our younger brother is because of you, and the love I show towards you is because of you. You have done such selfless acts towards me which have compelled me to love you. My love for you is indescribable.  

Thank you, my beloved sister. Thank you for being my keeper.

Sincerely,

Your one and only sister.

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October 29

Pride Can Kill

Prompt: “Why is it the people who need the most help won’t take it.”

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Pride. Pride blinds an individuals ability to see the situation they currently are in. An individuals may feel like they have to prove themselves to others and show that they are strong and capable enough to handle it on their own, when clearly others can see the struggle. Letting pride and ones ego blind them will their ability to make the choices that will actually benefit them in the future. Sometimes asking for help with pushing the rock up the mountain is better then letting it back down even though it shows help was needed it is better then letting others see that pride will block the ability to succeed.

In my life, I have experienced countless situations when an individual refuses to ask for help because they believe pride and ego is more important then the outcome of the situation. When I was in Disneyland, my family was walking back, it was about 12 pm and we saw someone crawling in the bushes. Lying there was a man so drunk he couldn’t locate his own shoes. Seeing this my dad went over to him and offered to help him back to his room in the hotel. Considering his options the man refused the help my dad offered but his words were slurred and his head was barely staying up. Thus seeing this my dad saw the situation he was in and asked for his room number in case the man passed out, which later he did. This action demonstrated that the man was slowly starting to realize the danger his actions could cause and even though he refused to ask for help, he would take it if he couldn’t make the choice for himself. Helping the man to the room was not his choice, and he was passed out before he arrived at the room. Pride. The pride that this man possessed blocked his mental state from making the choice he needed most and him passing out and losing the ability to fight his pride ended up saving his life. This man was letting his pride blind him of the help he needed and could have potentially lost his life that night. Experiencing this made me understand the power asking for help had on an individual. It also taught me that if I want to overcome a challenge I may need to sacrifice something that I have worked hard to develop. Having had that experience and the effects the outcome could have had it showed me that my pride can always be rebuilt but it is hard to rebuild yourself after physical harm is done.

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Pride is a powerful trait that can be used in beneficial way, but has the potential to been the bane of some individuals. Individuals refuse help because they believe it will make them appear weak but only a strong individual will sacrifice their pride in order to get past a challenge they are currently facing. Once an individual realizes that pride can always be rebuilt and reclaimed, they will make a smarter choice and see the potential danger in their situation.

“It’s okay to lose your pride over someone you love. Don’t lose someone you love over your pride.”

Unknown

October 29

Child stands for: Creative, Happy, Imaginative, Laughter, Dreamer

Life Lessons from Randy Pausch – Thoughts/Experiences

“Never lose the childlike wonder. It’s just too important. It’s what drives us.”

-Randy Pausch

Think about your childhood.                                                        

Think about the freedom.

Think about your wandering mind.

The life we had when we were younger felt better than the life we live now, but the truth is we can still live that life, all we have to do is remember and believe.

Each and everyone of us have that childlike wonder trapped within us; it is what gives us creativity, imagination, and curiosity. Without these core factors, our lives would be dull and unadventurous.

Within my life I have a strong trust and belief in my childlike wonder.      

It is what helps me discover new ideas, create beautiful dances, and have the time of my life with curiosity. My life is filled with colours and new adventures that lighten up my days; without my childlike mindset my world would fall down into a never ending path of repetition. I remember that until the age of 13,  I would create new games such as, imagining my surroundings to be a school of witchcraft and wizardry and act as a student with magical powers. This ability to create and imagine a new world around me brought me to realize that there is always going to be that child within me and everyone else. The only problem is that, as we grow up we forget about our inner child and it slowly disappears. As a way to prevent this disappearance, we must continue to nourish and water that inner feeling so it will grow along side each and everyone of us. As our inner kid and adult merge together it will help us during our monotonous times to bring out the joy and light as the power of what mini-wheats calls our “kidult” will flourish. To continue life full of happiness, laughter, and imagination the strength within ourselves must be stronger than any other emotions or feelings, therefore, the world around us will too fill with more colour and light.

Remember your childhood.

Remember the feelings of happiness within you.

Remember the light within that urges to shine. 

Remember to live.

 

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October 29

” Look For the Best In Everybody”

     

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The same eternal light resides within each and every individual. We’re all born with the same blood flowing through our veins, born with the same flesh only different ethnicities, born with the same idea to fulfill a purpose. To see one different from another is just a perception of false judgment. Behind every individual is a story to be discovered. To see only the flaws in a person or to judge one by how they look or behave, makes us not any better then that person we’re pointing figures at. Look for the best in everybody.

I was raised in a family where we were always taught to see the good in all, because within everyone resides God. People have the perception to judge other people because they only see the wrong in them but not their virtues, not realizing that by pointing out someone else’s flaws doesn’t make you any better. Born in a Sikh family, we always went to the Gurdwara Sahib (Sikh temple) on the weekends. I came to a realization that there is no point to see someone different from yourself because at the end of the day none of that matters. We’re all coming to know who we really are as individuals; everyone is interconnected to the one source that brings us all together as one. Just seeing the virtues in everyone and never pointing out a flaw, will allow us all to live a happier life.

One day, as I was walking home from my cousin’s house, I saw a homeless man sitting along the road. He had a sign in his hand which said, “Bless me with a smile so I can live another day”. I was surprised to see what was written because usually it says,” I haven’t eaten in days it would be great to eat a meal or get money”. Seeing what that homeless individual wanted, really put me into perspective of how short life really is; we don’t know if we’ll live our next breath or not. I wanted to talk to that man, but there was something holding me back, the idea of judgement. Afraid, that is the man wanting more than what he wrote, is it the idea of false persuasion? Is he another homeless man wanting money just to go get some liquor? But then I thought to myself, to a better me, of what I’m doing isn’t that judgement? After thinking for a while I went up to him and said “Hi”, and smiled, that’s all I had in me to do. I could see in that man’s eyes that what he truly wanted was just a smile. As I was walking closer and closer to my house, I kept thinking of that man, and why was I so fast to judge. This was about three years ago, now that I reminisce about that day I could never see myself walking by him without giving a dollar or even a meal.

We’re so quick to judge people by how they look, or by the stereotypes we have about particular types of people, that judgement holds us back from doing the things we really want to do in life. Through only seeing the good in others and seeing that we’re all truly the same, will save us from seeing ourselves 20 years from now with regret to go back and fix the way things were or the way we dealt with situations.

If there’s anything I’ve learnt in the past 17 years of my life, it would be to only see the best in everybody. Through false prophecies one only lacks to up lift their potential, because behind every life of false judgement is a story to be discovered. Seeing the good in everyone, will allow us to move forward from what was holding us back.

 

 

Everyone may not be good, but there’s always something good in everyone. Never judge anyone shortly because every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.

– Oscar Wilde